The trip to 1976 led me again to Morrison and Boyd (Organic Chemistry). Then I came around a curious question about the geometry of methane -- just what shape is a tetrahedron? After all these years, I never visualized what a tetrahedron resembles. Morris and Boyd does not make the three dimensions clear.
Earlier today, I read an article on emotional intelligence of which I'll elaborate later on. Needless to day, it does cause me to examine many past situations in life, especially the faux pas at Lenox. I think it's a matter of control and the neglect of that control. In both cases, I missed part of the explanation.